I'm reading a great book at the moment, The Breakthrough Experience by Dr John F Demartini, I'll review it here when I'm finished, and it contains some great quotes. One I found last night goes:
"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes." Marcel Proust.
Think about that for a moment - how can we look differently at what we have and where we are?
I used to put off my appreciation of life constantly. I'd say things like: "when I get over this I will...", "when I feel better I'll be happy", "if I didn't have... I could do..." and I certainly used to dwell on all the negatives in my life. "I can't leave the house without putting my eye inserts in", "I can't eat this", "I can't eat that". "I have cancer, I might die", "my eyes hurt", "I don't have the energy to..." etc, etc, etc. I suddenly realised all my self talk, you know that little voice in your head we all have, that mostly seems to dwell in the "life's half empty" side of things was negative and on the "I can't do it" side of the scale.
Now don't panic, I'm not going to suggest you ignore all that is wrong in your life. I know it isn't all happy little high notes. What I would like to suggest, is that you find some time, every day, to just sit and think of all the positives in your life. Thinking is working the muscles of our brain, and if all we are used to is working the negative side, we need to work the positive muscles a bit more. If we can do it often enough, the muscle will regenerate and a habit will be formed and you might just find you are feeling a bit better about your life.
One of the people who inspires me is Nick Vujicic, (Voy-eh-chich). Whenever I feel I can't do something I go back to this u - tube video and play it again. I've included it in my website section too.
So take a look at Nick and then spend ten minutes counting all the good things in your life. Can't find any? Well start with "I woke up this morning" - let's face it that sure beats the heck out of the alternative! Try the old "fake it until you make it" technique and pretend you are gartful for a few things if you have to. When? Anytime and anywhere. On the bus, in a traffic jam, over a cup of tea after work, whilst you chew on your lunch. Think about this - 5 mins a day = 35 mins a week = 30+ hours a year. Now how much would 30 hours of being grateful change your life?
Todays' Advice: Spend time every day being grateful for things in your life, yourself, other people, things that help you like technology etc. Try for at least ten.